One of my friends, Shawn, recently posted on social media his “Shawnmandments” that he lives by:
“For those going through it right now, I share my useless secrets to staying positive…I also never harbor resentment or seek revenge; vent, go off in your head, then go back to pursuing what’s in your best interest. Positive use of your energy pays dividends and builds self confidence. Their pain gains you NOTHING.” = Shawn
These “Shawnmandments” are more than just rules; they’re guiding principles for living with integrity, purpose, and resilience. Let’s dive into each one:
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Be Rigorously Authentic Being true to yourself is the foundation of self-respect and trust from others. Authenticity means aligning your actions with your core beliefs and values, even when it’s difficult.
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Do Uncomfortable Work – Growth Equals Pain Real growth isn’t easy. Embrace challenges, take on tasks that make you uncomfortable, and lean into the pain, because it’s often the catalyst for meaningful transformation.
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Act Your Wage The “act your wage” trend is one way that workers push back on stress and burnout by putting up better boundaries between their professional and personal lives. Also, it means to live within your means and be mindful of spending. This isn’t about restriction; it’s about being financially responsible and avoiding unnecessary stress and debt.
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Don’t Let Anything Steal Your Joy Guard your happiness fiercely. Situations and people will try to derail you—don’t let them. Joy is a choice and an invaluable resource in your life.
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You Can Be Right or You Can Be Happy Prioritize peace over pride. Sometimes it’s worth letting go of being right to maintain harmony and happiness in your relationships.
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Risk vs. Reward – Is It Worth It? Evaluate every decision: what’s at stake, and what could you gain? Understanding this balance helps you make wiser choices and prevents impulsive or risky decisions.
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Gaslight to Greatness – You Are What You Say Empower yourself by reframing negative thoughts into positive affirmations. Believe in your capabilities, and your actions will follow suit.
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Mercy is Greater than Judgment Show compassion and empathy, even when it’s tempting to judge. Extending mercy builds stronger relationships and a kinder world.
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Shut Up Listen more. Silence can be a powerful teacher, and by talking less, we open ourselves up to learn, observe, and understand more deeply.
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Surrender the Rest Control what you can, but release what you can’t. Trust that life will unfold as it should, and surrendering the uncontrollable brings inner peace.
These Shawnmandments offer a roadmap to a balanced and purposeful life, helping you build resilience, nurture joy, and stay aligned with who you truly are.
The Shawnmandments are kind of like the 10 Commandments, but with less smiting and more life hacks! While Moses brought down stone tablets from the mountaintop, Shawn brought down wisdom like “Act your wage” and “Shut up,” probably with fewer plagues involved. And let’s be real—”You can be right or you can be happy” might be the modern-day equivalent of “Thou shalt not kill”… at least when it comes to keeping the peace on group texts!
Big thanks to Shawn for sharing these and allowing me to share them with you.
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